Showing posts with label Minnesota. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Minnesota. Show all posts

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Guest: The Fairy Gardener



 Chicago, Illinois, July, 2013
Jim Edminster


Here it is the height of summer and where are the bees and butterflies?  My friend Steve reports from Minnesota that there are no bees there either.  I did see a few fireflies last night. (Do you call them lightning bugs?)  and the goddess knows that if insects are going extinct why couldn’t the ants invading my kitchen go first?


Let’s talk mini-climates:  in my medium sized yard I’ve had to adjust from full shade to nearly full sun (because as you know if you’ve followed my rantings in this column – a neighbor, no longer a friend, cut down two enormous trees that shaded my yard.)  The knowledge that mature yards generally get shadier is catching up even with me – beebling about the garden I noticed that the peonies I brought from my mother’s yard in Kansas didn’t bloom.  Neither did the German iris and the Siberian iris in my parkway.  Why?  Because they had become enshrouded in new shade.  I had to scout my yard, find a patch with more sun and plan a plant move. It has to be soon – sun plants may hang on in the shade for awhile but they’ll eventually succumb.  Pack your bags, ladies – we’re moving to new digs!


I live in one of the densest areas of Chicago but something  has incidentally evolved vis-à-vis a view that I really like:  sitting by my pond/waterfall if I look straight down my yard I see nothing but shades of green.  I’m in the country with no trace of people or their buildings.


All this greenery even tweaked with white, yellow and purple foliage gets, umm, a trifle monotonous.  Five or six blue horses scattered about help and so do the large blue pots I’ve put around.  When I worked at Gethsemane Gardens in Chicago I learned (Plant Pot Perfection I) from Carol Rice who trained all the folk in her section how to wow the customers.  Example:  large red/purple ti plant at rear, garten-meister fuschias next (green & white with pale orange blooms), and chartreuse creeping jenny over the edge of the blue pot.  Or – red-leafed canna in back, two miniature yellow tropical evergreens next, three tall verbena bonariensis between them and purple and green striped zebrinas (wandering Jews) tumbling over the edge.


Here’s this column’s recipe which has already been tried out on my garden club with no complaints:

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

The Fight for Marriage, and Marriage Equality



A Tale of Two States

    Coming back to roost from a season of volunteerism for pro-same-sex marriage campaigns, I honestly thought I would be writing a very different column.  The greater struggle for marriage and equality should have been in Minnesota, not in Illinois.  After all, Minnesota had Michelle Bachmann and a large Tea Party Caucus with which to contend.

    What happened?

    I propose that there are three key differences between the Minnesota experience and that in Illinois.  Minnesota did not have prior “civil unions” on which to fall back, Minnesota’s pro-same-sex marriage coalition was broad and deep, and Minnesota’s LGBTQ community is not irrevocably tied to the Democratic Party (DFL).  In fact, Libertarians and Independents formed a significant block of pro-same-sex marriage supporters in Minnesota.

    Last fall, on-line interactions between bloggist Will Kohler and IL State Representative Rita Mayfield indicate key differences between Illinois’ challenge and Minnesota’s movement from struggling to defeat an anti-gay amendment to passing full marriage equality.  Mayfield’s now famous comment is… “A civil union between two men or two women is supposed to be fundamentally the same as a civil union between a man and a women[sic]. What am I missing?”

IL Rep Rita Mayfield (D)
    Mayfield seemingly felt that gays and lesbians already had it all.  She was barraged by religious lobbyists while according to her comments, no one from her district had yet bothered to sit down with her to discuss how the differences between same-sex unions and marriage-equality impact their personal lives as her constituents. 

    In Minnesota, I watched the floor debate in Sen Jim Carlson’s office with a couple, Jim and Steve, who had personally taken the time to confront Carlson with the issue and to educate him with the real-life consequences of not being able to marry to his constituents.  Carlson admits that they changed his mind.

    To many outside of the LGBTQ community, civil unions for gays seem like a huge “gift” to a new-fangled and still too-little understood minority group. 


Friday, February 8, 2013

My 3/5’s of a Marriage



The plaintiffs in Brown asserted that this system of racial separation, while masquerading as providing separate but equal treatment of both white and black Americans, instead perpetuated inferior accommodations, services, and treatment for black Americans.”  Wikipedia, “Brown v Topeka Board of Education


Courtesy Wikipedia:  Street Kids confront police at Stonewall.


My 3/5’s of a Marriage




    The trend to see civil rights, or even basic definitions of humanity, let alone citizenship, as negotiated settlements within our Constitution has impacted communities far beyond the African-American experience. 

 While the African-American community has by far born the greater share of the burden of such hypocrisy and exploitation, the victims of such attitudes have also included women, Asian-Americans and immigrants, and less formally but just as seriously, Native Americans, Latin Americans, informal enemy combatants, and the LGBTQ community.

    Misperceptions that the basic civil right of marriage equality can be a negotiated right or that an entire population group should be satisfied with something that looks like equality but really is not in fact equal, but a negotiated settlement, are only the latest manifestations of the 3/5’s rule.

    America – “land of the free?”  Not always.  Champions of equality?  Often depends on whom.

    Regrettably, throughout our history, our rhetoric has shamefully failed to live up to our reality – and that this inequality is purposeful and a choice should just piss people off! 

    Too many have bought into the system and drank the Kool-Aid™ of negotiated civil liberties.  This is a dangerous ideal and while it might be American, it is not worthy of Universalist perceptions of liberty.

    We are not alone.  Liberal Britain has recently experienced painful debates over civil rights and gay marriage.  Even France, who if anyone, has surpassed the United States in both the rhetoric and commitment to liberty, equality and the commonweal, has faced political division over the recognition of the equality of rights for the LGBTQ community.  What’s going on?

    Failing to recognize inequality is one thing – failure to act once that inequality has been identified and named is hypocrisy.

Friday, December 28, 2012

2013 – Higher Resolutions


    2012 closed with a social challenge to the normalization of the lesbian and gay lifestyles, a challenge posed as a referendum to the American voting public on the shared humanity of their gay brothers and sisters.  Thankfully, the challenge ended in defeat for the forces of discrimination and homo-hysteria (will get back to this shortly!).  Nor should we forget Obama’s perhaps somewhat tardy repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell (actually 09-2011).  Perhaps the tide has finally turned towards acceptance in the USA and we can catch up to South Africa, Mexico and Argentina.

    So moving on, what are our goals and resolutions now for 2013?

    One of our highest priorities ought to be completing the end of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.  Our work is hardly completed within the military, though they have made amazing progress in a very short time – I’m liking the sight of men and women in uniform openly dancing with each other at the gay clubs or holding hands and sharing an intimate moment over a beer at common military hang-outs such as Chicago’s Midway Airport, the Sip-N-Dip in Great Falls, Montana, Mad Myrna's in Anchorage, Alaska, or on Coronado Beach in San Diego.  

    But too little progress has been made elsewhere within the nation’s school systems, within the nation’s corporations and within the nation’s churches.  We need to end the institution of the closet permanently, everywhere.  

    Most disturbing have been recent Roman Catholic and American Evangelical attempts to convince US courts and lawmakers that the Bill of Rights stops at the property line of the religious establishment.  I worry that discussion exempting religious institutions from having to pay for non-natural birthing and birth control procedures will be extended by these institutions to avoid having to recognize and hire (or at least not fire) gay and lesbian employees.  There is no reason, based on past behavior, to believe that such will not be the case.

Courtesy Tretter Collection, University of Minnesota.
    Similarly, we need to finally answer that age-old question, “Why are there no fags in Star Trek?”  A touching “heart” from the 2012 Minnesota “Vote No Campaign” reminded that volunteer that he or she was working hard to beat the anti-same-sex marriage amendment so that more gays and lesbians could be represented on television, in advertising and in print media – as openly gay persons in healthy relationships and not merely as comedic routines.  The BBC in London finally got the message and promises to include more gay and lesbian content in the media, including additional positive incidental portrayals of the gay and lesbian lifestyle.  Why have ABC, NBC, CBS, HBO, and Showtime not made similar commitments?  The gay and lesbian community has certainly made enough money for these networks by allowing ourselves to be laughed at or voyeuristically oogled – when do we get to be taken seriously and inclusively?

    Many of the nation’s more socially active queer youth are too young to remember that before Will and Grace, Queer as Folk or Modern Family, we were often held up for national inspection as a sensationalist scandal, as folks out to destroy civic morality, as serial killers, as sexual deviants and a whole host of negative stereotypes that reinforced many of the misperceptions conservative Americans now hold regarding our community.  We deserve a public apology for past stereotyping and negative portrayals and immediate change based on the model of BBC.  We have earned the privilege.  If the military can change, so can television and cable.

    The Associated Press (AP) has released new guidelines discouraging the use of the term Homophobia when used in a political sense.  Homophobia, AP insists, is an irrational fear of gays and lesbians.  I disagree.  It seems to me that many Republicans, Fundamentalist Christians and Vatican Bishops seem to demonstrate just exactly that – an irrational fear of gays and lesbians. Anti-gay is no more a political statement than is Anti-African-American-ism from the KKK.  In their campaign to discourage use of the term Homophobia, AP is merely seeking to water down the irrational and undemocratic nature of the homophobic Right’s war against gays and lesbians.  However, I am willing to meet them half-way.  Instead of using the term Homophobia, in 2013, I will switch to the terms Anti-gay-hysteria and Homohysteria.  Seems fair.

Courtesy Tretter Collection, University of Minnesota.
    Let’s cut Target Corporation some slack in 2013.  Three times in the last month I have had to correct persons, including fellow writers, regarding Target’s mea culpa to the LGBT community regarding some very unwise political contributions in the past.  Target got the message and apologized.  We need to move on and renew our support for this company.  Many urban homos forget that most gays and lesbians do not live in gay ghettoes and in the majority of US cities and states, the only legal protections gays and lesbians have in the workplace are those voluntarily adopted by companies such as Costco, Target, General Mills and too few others.  In states such as Montana, Target, Costco and General Mills might be the only places where an “out” gay or lesbian might be able to find and hold employment.  We still need their support, let’s give them ours.

    Finally, speaking of support – where’s Mark Dayton’s pro-gay leadership after the 2012 defeat of the anti-gay marriage amendment?  Not only did we rally support against the amendment, working up-hill all the way, but we gave Dayton exactly what he said he needed – Democratic control of the Minnesota House and Senate.  Get it done.  Let it go. We need to move on so that we no longer have to be divided over this issue.  Minnesota’s DFL Party has a history of dragging its feet in the fight for Gay rights – in fact, Arne Carlson, once called them on it and became a pro-gay Republican writing anti-Gay discrimination into state law for exactly this reason – to get over it and move on.  Come on, Mark!  If the Marines can do it, if the BBC can do it, so can you!

    Happy New Year!  Congratulations for 2012 – let’s be even happier and more equal in 2013.

(998 words, 28 Dec 2012)
(c) Agassiz Media & Consulting, 2012

Friday, June 10, 2005

Our Proud Pride!

    WOW!  A GREAT big thank-you to Anthony Whelihan, for our best Lavender Pride Edition cover ever, a 3-D masterpiece; to Mavrik Realty, Miller Lite, Malibu Passion Fruit, and Wilde Roast Cafe for sponsoring Lavender's Summer of Pride(TM).

    As a GLBT community, we clearly are showing our pride.

    June is the month of Pride, an annual celebration of who we are and who we are becoming.

    Pride reports literally are pouring in from all over the world.

    Brazil is putting on the world's largest GLBT festival.  Many Eastern European cities are planning their first events ever.  Asia officially has awakened to the gay consciousness.

    All is not color and pageants, however. 

    GLBT communities in fundamentalist Muslim nations still are being persecuted with imprisonment and beatings. 

    Even int eh world's most free societies, kids continue to be ridiculed, if not physically harassed, for being different.

    With few exceptions, civil and religious authorities do not recognize gay marriages.

    At the North Star Classic in Eagan over Memorial Day Weekend, it hit me.  We have moved beyond having pride to becoming [a] pride -- a worldwide family of men and women who know each other, look out for each other, and enjoy each others' company.

    Think of it:  Throughout the world, we have our own embassies, in the way of GLBT bars, cafes, and coffee shops.

    As a gay male, I am as at home in the Marais of Paris, the clubs of Berlin, or the bars in Sydney as I am here in the Twin Cities. 

    We fall in and out of love with men and women from Canada, France, Korea, the United Kingdom, Panama, and Israel, not to mention the east and left coasts of the United States.

    We even have our own international games.

    At the North Star Classic, I played for a team from Chicago that is a sort of family, with members from Montana, Minneapolis, Los Angeles, and rural INdiana.

    This fall, I will be in San Diego with another family group, this time from Los Angeles, Minneapolis, Toronto, Montreal, Jamaica, and Vancouver. 

    Leafing through the Lavender Lens photographs of the North Star Classic in this issue, it is also apparent that we come in all shapes, sizes, ages, and colors. 

    Diversity among gays, gay supporters, and gay families goes beyond all stereotypes.

    At this summer's Pride events and other gatherings, we celebrate these friendships, and renew this mutual support for another year.

    So, have at it!  Have some fun, and meet some new people.  Just be safe, be responsible, and help build up the Pride for another year.


originally published 10-23 Jun, 2005
Lavender Magazine, v 11, no 262
Minneapolis, Minnesota

Friday, May 27, 2005

We are Family

    As GLBT individuals, we continue to face a lot of struggles in our quest for fairness and equality, but we will make it.

    Just 10 years ago, Lavender was printing its first issue, and some landmark GLBT businesses were accepting their first chamber dollars.

    Sodomy was illegal, and no jurisdiction anywhere, on any level, recognized same-sex marriage rights.

    GLBT persons will make it, because we have the right to do so, and -- as I have written before -- because the community at large needs us to succeed.

    I was reminded of this when I recently brought my toddler nephew, Dietrich, to work.  Lavender is a child-friendly workplace, and his parents had to spend the day in hospital.

    (Let me say kudos to any parent who accomplishes anything while watching a child, no matter how well behaved.  Parenting is hard work.)

    Taking responsibility for Dietrich reinforced to me that we do not need permission to have families -- we already do.  Millions of GLBT folks all over the world serve as moms, dads, uncles, aunts, and grandparents.

    It's a biological fact.  We are all members of families, and that cannot be changed.  As such, we must realize the right [to] openly fill our family roles.

    Dietrich also is a member of a cultural minority group in the Twin Cities. 

    Unless something changes, Dietrich will probably face, as have other members of his family, subtle, even blatant, stereotypes, prejudices, ignorant statements, and pressures to conform to the cultural expectations and values of another majority culture, often to his detriment or exclusion (sound familiar?).

    Though unfortunate, Dietrich's situation is real.  The only way for his tomorrow to improve is for us to confront today issues of social discrimination and bias. 

    The entire society needs the GLBT community to succeed in the pursuit of fairness, because a society that tolerates discrimination and openly codifies injustice into its legal system respects nobody.

    Reinforcing the interrelatedness of our society, Dietrich accompanied me to a recent press conference.

    St Paul Mayor Randy Kelly was supporting a new outreach effort by the St Paul retail community to the young urbanites and condo dwellers, who depend on taxers paid by healthy businesses to provide much needed mortgage assistance, student loans, and effective municipal services.

    Lavender  was there to help build those relationships.

    Dietrich took the time to thank the Mayor for supporting the continuation of the Early Childhood and Family Education (ECFE) programming at Highland Park schools, paid for by state taxes. 

    Then, Dietrich and I, as a family, headed out to support some of those St Paul businesses.


originally published 27 May - 09 Jun, 2005
Lavender Magazine, v 11, no 260
Minneapolis, Minnesota
 

Friday, April 15, 2005

OutFront Minnesota's Lobbying Day


    Attending OutFront Minnesota’s GLBT Lobby Day at the State Capitol was a great first assignment as Managing Editor at Lavender.

    Beautiful weather, visionary speakers, old friends, and a good cause combined for a successful rally, as thousands of queers and their friends prepared to engage their legislators in dialogue regarding the effect potential legislative decisions might have on our lives and basic civil rights.

    I was glad to be part of this community again.

    Dialogue and community are two inter-related concepts, each meaningless without the other.

    I reflected on this relationship last fall, when I had to decide whether to change my residency to Montana, where I had returned for family business.

    At the time, petitions were being circulated in Montana to bring up for referendum a constitutional amendment banning same-sex marriage.

    Certain home-schooling advocates were fighting for the right to pull their children out of public schools – in part to prevent them from being exposed to the “institutionalized normalization of the GLBT lifestyle.”

    As a taxpayer, they wanted me to be a part of their community, but as a gay person, they would tolerate me only if I remained silent and pulled out of the active communal experience.

    I realized that my Minnesota driver’s license not only represented better shopping and access to a full-scale symphony orchestra, but also entitled me to participate fully in active dialogue with my community, without fear, and without having to negotiate away my basic rights.

    While queers in Minnesota are not yet able to marry, they do have the rights to adopt children, enter into political discourse without fear of reprisal, be treated with dignity and acceptance in public schools, not be discriminated against in the workplace, and, in certain jurisdictions, register civil family arrangements publicly.

    Regrettably, Minnesota is the exception rather than the rule.  The strength of our rights hinges on our participation in each election, and on our ability to maintain an active dialogue with the broader community.

    So, I am back in Minnesota, and while being Managing Editor might be taking the concept of dialogue a bit far, I am relieved to have an opportunity to work within a community that shares my concerns; values me for who I am; and maintains the active tradition of dialogue necessary for communicating, addressing, and protecting our common interests as a proud GLBT community.

Originally published 15-28 April, 2005, v 10 no 258
Lavender Magazine
Minneapolis, Minnesota